Thirteen years ago I gave birth to my first child, as he enters adolescence (and I wonder how that could be possible) I realise a lot has changed and there is much that I have had to work out for myself. So I decided to write my 2004 pregnant self a letter sharing what I have learnt so far.
Forget birthing plans, a water birth, scented candles and nice relaxing music playing in the background, the only thing that you need to focus on when you go into labour is your breath. It will be an ally silently holding your hand when things get tough. This may be your first baby but let your body speak to you and listen carefully as it whispers. Trust and stand up for yourself, don’t be so nice. The nurses won’t actually believe that your labour is established because you cope so well and you labour so quickly. There will be panic, baby will be distressed but stay clam, focus on what you need to do you will soon hold him in your arms. And it hurts, especially with zero pain relief but one day you will understand the joy in childbirth, I promise.